How To Sort Your Shit Out

It’s the golden question for every 20 something really isn’t it? How do you actually sort your shit out and begin to achieve what you want in life. Let me be upfront from the start of this post; I don’t really have a clue. I don’t know about you reader; but I started off life as a girl who had clear goals and knew the very obvious steps to get to the places I want to go to. I knew I wanted to dance so I moved schools for sixth form and did an A Level Dance. I knew I wanted to keep studying it so I auditioned for Musical Theatre courses and went to Uni and studied it. I wanted to teach dance and took part in a PGCE for Dance secondary teaching. Then everything came to a halt. Sadly I got removed from my course due to the University not being able to cope with my mental health needs quite frankly. My mental health that had decreased throughout the course as each teacher I met chipped away at my confidence and critiqued in a manner that began to feel quite targeted. In the end I was told I would not make a good dance teacher. I spent the next few months trying to fight this opinion; setting up my own fitness classes, speaking with the University to get some support and backing for me to complain and eventually I did get asked to start the course again….despite being two weeks off completion originally. I moved back home and realised I no longer had a goal. I lost sight of my passion and drive and began to settle for just getting by and earning money. I know I touched on this in my Post Uni Life post too.

So here’s what it comes down to. How is it that you go about getting your brain back working again and finding some kind of satisfaction from life. How do you stop putting off messaging people back, or start seeking new career paths. How do you know what the best step for your life is when you’ve really taken your foot off the gas for the last two years. Here’s the thing you don’t know. People around you can offer advice and support and build you back up. But it is about you finding something deep down and saying you actually want to live your life and not just sit in it like some kind of background character. But finding your passion is hard and trying to streamline it into a career is even more complicated. It’s a world with so many possibilities and if you’ve got a lot of interests where do you even start to look?

But these last few days I feel like I’ve started to get my head on straight and began to ask myself what is actually going to make me feel satisfied with my life. I’ve had some lovely messages from people since I’ve started writing these posts and it’s helped me realise that I’ve been so afraid about failing that I’ve never really tried. Putting yourself out there is really hard; the fear of rejection is definitely something we all live with and struggle with on a daily basis. But sometimes you have to think life is really too short to not focus on your happiness. I’ve let myself be distracted by all the negative things in my life for too long and I feel like it’s finally time to believe in myself and get to where I want to be.

Sorting your shit out is all about realising what is important to you, who is important to you and why it’s important to you. Then it’s deciding to just absolutely go for it. Plan out the route to your final goal and how on earth you’re going to get there. It might take you a while and you might beat yourself up for not starting sooner but the feeling of knowing you’re finally striving to achieve something special to you really is amazing. So to whoever has bothered to read this convoluted post; I wish you the absolute best in sorting your shit out; it’s going to be hard and there will be hurdles that leave you with more shit to sort out. But when you’re on that path you know for sure that there is a light at the end of the tunnel.